So yesterday was not a very good day for me. Heart disease has forced its way back into my life. It is taking things I wanted. It is reminding me I’m not in control. Most days I can manage that. Some days I can’t.
Yesterday was one of those can’t-manage days.
My friend Kristen came over to distract me, listen, let me vent, keep me together. We sat in the sun on my blue chairs in the backyard on the last day of summer. (Today it appears winter is here.) We talked about some important things and some silly things and then she asked me to answer this:
“What makes you feel happy when you are all by yourself?”
She was adamant that no other people can be involved – no kids, no friends, no husband. I was more curious how she’d answer it than answering myself, but once I got started it was easy. She just said happy. Not happiest, not most fulfilled, not most meaningful. Just happy.
So here they are, in no particular order:
- Drinking my coffee in the armchair in the bay window in my dining room.
- My favorite wood earrings.
- Wrapping a package or present, and making it extra cute.
- Geeking out on technology; teaching myself to edit php or css files. Reading online tutorials until I get it.
- My house when it is tidy and pretty.
- The light in the living room in the afternoon.
- Getting some idea to make something or organize something or fix something and then finding all the materials right here in the house (see also: hoarding).
- Flowers. And mercury glass.
- Making up something for dinner with what’s on hand and it is so good I write it down in hopes of replicating someday (that never works though).
- Things that are resourceful or clever, like figuring out how to freeze pumpkin bread dough at the right point of rising and kneading so it can be baked for a breakfast without getting up at 5 a.m. Or sewing scraps of fabric on to cards.
- A good book
- Iced tea with mint and lemon
- Downloading, sorting, and editing photos; looking at old Facebook albums
- Feeling like I have a cute outfit on, even though I’m only going to school for pickup.
This helps enormously. I might make another list tomorrow. Go on, try it.
What makes you feel happy when you are all by yourself? Please share in the comments! I really want to know.
I feel happier every minute when I read your happy lists! Here are the happy lists we received from Facebook and Twitter. And, check out the comments section below for many more great lists of happy things!
- A great book
- My dog curled up by me
- Some type of yummy snack and a beverage
- A good book makes me happy
- Is drinking an acceptable answer?
- I just came from the garden. I know I have other pressing work that needs to be done inside, but the urge to be outside enjoying the weather in the yard just took over. It is part procrastination, yet it is work that brings joy and rewards that come much easier to me than anything else I do.
- Dance parties
- Receiving mail (that’s not a bill!)
- Pretty shoes
- Making mixed CDs
- Singing at the top of my lungs
- Playing piano
- Treading water
- Sitting on a dock and watching the sunset
- Taking myself to the movies
- Burrowing under a mountain of blankets
- Having a glass of wine on the balcony on a warm summer’s night
- Walking in nature
- A nap
- Reading the news
- Sitting on my porch
- A REALLY good TV series that makes me not want to go to bed so I can keep watching it.
- Cup of tea
- Great fiction book
- A clean house
- Great bargain
- Fresh flowers
- Red wine
- Cooking a great meal
- Satisfying work
- Great photograph
- Inspiring music
- This picture:
Me holding craft fail #1. (Supposedly if you wrap wire around a cone you get a Christmas tree shape. Sure.) Craft fail #2, the world’s ugliest Mod Podged candles, are over my shoulder. Craft fails can also make one happy, if for no other reason than it made Kristen happy to make this little illustration, which now exists for your entertainment.